Meh. I know my toots can feel blunt at times. And many times they're borderline replyguying, though I'm doing my best to learn away from it.
But many times they're the most authentic way of my communication. Setting things straight before moving on.
And then I find out that someone has softblocked me, and I see that there's yet another person I can't have an authentic connection with.
I know, everyone can choose to not interact. Still it sucks to be at this end so often.
@Stoori One of my friends has a condition (exact medical diagnosis escapes me at the moment) where they find difference between appearance and label extremely confusing.
So, they tend to get criticised for misgendering &c., not because they don't want to respect others but because their authentic communication is appearance=label rather than label>appearance.
Not the same as your situation, but thought it might give you a sense of not being alone.
@DaveHiggins Yeah. This specific form of abilism is a bit tricky to address, because the criticized behaviour manifests in a way that is sometimes hard to discern from bigotry, so bringing it up may also be seen as defending bigotry, which is likely to attract canceling commentary. That, in turn, is very demotivating and tiring, so many times it's just easier to just shut up and weather the abilism.
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